I am very happy to see the discussion here. I appreciate all your contribution. Regarding Wendi Deng, I know little about her. According to Jingguan's post, she seems to be an ambitious person. Normally I will keep away from this kind of person like her.
Dear Weimei: I think you are right. If I can learn to relax and float, I can overcome the fear to bury me under water. I will watch the video. Thanks very much.
I suddenly realized that I read this post before and supported it. What a memory! Thanks Xiaomei and Bomi2664 to recommend it here. The article is very well written. I wonder if the author minds me posting it in my blog.
Thanks Qingshan: Your posts remind me of my discussion with a foreign friend who is a male. I wrote to him: I think becoming a fan of a star is an entrance for someone's dream or an exit for someone's dissatisfaction to reality. The good thing is that it won't ruin the family because of distance He wrote to me: You are right no marriage is perfect and we need distractions in our lives, its not wrong to admire other people especially if as you say for this person expresses values that match your own or even challenge us to change our values for the better.
Dear Jinguan: To be frank, for the first time since I came back to China 5 years ago, I felt regret for returning. Did I put my daughter in a danerous environment to grow up?