Don’t say:“That’s not my job.”
Why:If your superior asks you to do something, it is your job.
Instead say:“I’m not sure that should be my priority right now.” Then have a conversation with your boss about your responsibilities.
不要说：“这不归我管。”
因为：要是你的上司让你干什么，这就是你的工作了。
换句话：“现在我不知道自己的首要任务是什么。”然后开始跟你的老板讨论一下自己手上的活。
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Don’t say:“This might sound stupid, but…”
Why:Never undermine your ideas by prefacing your remarks with wishy-washy language.
Instead say:What’s on your mind. It reinforces your credibility to present your ideas with confidence.
不要说：“这个主意可能很蠢，不过……”
因为：永远不要用这种犹豫不决的话让自己的点子看起来不值一提。
换句话：直接说出自己心中所想。信心十足地提出自己的想法能让你显得更有能力。
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Don’t say:“I don’t have time to talk to you.”
Why:It’s plain rude, in person or on the phone.
Instead say:“I’m just finishing something up right now. Can I come by when I’m done?” Graciously explain why you can’t talk now, and suggest catching up at an appointed time later. Let phone calls go to voice mail until you can give callers your undivided attention.
不要说：“我没时间跟你聊天。”
因为：这太不礼貌了，不管是面对面还是电话里。
换句话：“我手头还有点事，做完了就过去找你怎么样？”礼貌地解释为什么现在不能说话，并建议晚些时候再聊。要是暂时没时间，就不要接电话，让对方直接去语音信箱留言即可。
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Expert:Suzanne Bates, president and chief executive officer of Bates Communications, an executive-training firm in Wellesley, Massachusetts, and author ofSpeak Like a CEO(McGraw-Hill, $22,amazon.com).
专家：Suzanne Bates,Bates沟通（一家位于马萨诸塞州的高层培训公司）总裁、CEO，著有《CEO的说话之道》一书。
三、面试篇：
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Don’t say:“Are you pregnant?”
Why:You ask, she’s not, and you feel totally embarrassed for essentially pointing out that she’s overweight.
Instead say:“Hello” or “Great to see you” or “You look great.” Anything besides “Are you pregnant?” or “What’s the due date?” will do. Save yourself the humiliation and never ask.
不要说： “你怀孕了吗？”
因为： 要是你问了，可她并没怀，那就实在是太尴尬了，这不就是在说她太胖了吗？
换句话： “你好啊”或“见到你太好了”或“你看起来好极了。”总之不要问“你怀孕了吗？”或者“预产期几号？”就行了。为免尴尬还是不要问这种问题吧。
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Don’t say:“Do you plan on breast-feeding?”
Why:The issue can be controversial, and she may not want to discuss her decision publicly.
Instead say:Nothing. Unless you’re very close, don’t ask. If you slip, make up for the blunder by adding, “And do you feel comfortable telling me?”
不要说： “你打算喂母乳吗？”
因为： 这种问题有点复杂，可能引发争论，也有可能她会不想在大庭广众讨论这些。
换句话： 什么都别问。除非你俩特别亲近，否则就什么都别问。要是不小心问出了口，就补上一句：“跟我谈这个不尴尬吧？”
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Don’t say:“Were your twins natural?” or “It must have been hard for your child’s birth parent to give him up.”
Why:You’re suggesting that natural conception is better than in vitro fertilization (IVF) or adoption.
Instead say:To a parent of multiples, try a light “Wow, you have your hands full!” To an adoptive parent, say the same stuff you would to any other parent: “She’s adorable!” or “How old is he?”
不要说： “你的双胞胎是自然受孕的吗？”或者“你宝宝的生身父母放弃他肯定特别难受。”
因为： 这么说感觉好像自然受孕就比人工授精或者领养更好。
换句话： 对多胞胎的父母，可以轻松地说：“哇，这么多肯定累死你了。”对收养的父母，说你对普通父母会说的话就行了，比如“她真可爱。”或者“他多大了？”
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Expert:Kim Hahn, founder and chief executive officer of Conceive magazine.
专家：Kim Hahn，《孕期》杂志创始人及CEO。
五、剩女篇：