为什么西方人要跑去中国和那些不怎么会英语的女人结婚呢? submitted 2 月 ago* by chineseinamerica(注:其ID为中国人在美国) I wasworking as a part time English teacher in China before I went to the US for mydegree. There were some women in that private language center who were marriedto or trying to marry western men, mostly Americans. TheirEnglish was just lousy. They couldn't hold a 10 minutes conversation in English.Some of them did not speak English at all. But they really wanted to marry toAmericans. BTW, they were not poor at all. That private English center was veryhigh end. Therewas one 30 year old woman who didn't speak English but had an Americanboyfriend who didn't speak Chinese. He came to China for the first time and shebrought him to the school. They needed an electronic dictionary and ME tocommunicate. She was asking questions about salary, houses, and green card andI had to translate for them. They got married two months later. Therewas another woman who was already married to an American but couldn't get avisa because her English was so bad that she could not handle some simplequestions for a visa interview. So she asked me to write down the answers andshe would just memorize the answers. Why doAmericans marry Chinese women who hardly speak English? Seems quite pathetic tome. Edit: Iposted this thread because somehow I feel embarrassed by those women whofacilitate the stereotype of submissive/gold digging Asians. 在我去美国读书前我在中国做过兼职英语老师。在那个私立语言中心里有很多女人已经或者想要和西方男人结婚(主要是美国人)。她们的英语糟透了。都不能用英文谈个10分钟。其中的一些一点英文都不会。但是她们真的希望嫁给美国人。顺便说下,她们根本就不穷。那个私立英语中心十分高档。那儿有个不会英文的30岁的女人,却有个不会中文的美国男友。他是第一次来中国,她把他带到了学校。他们要靠一个电子词典以及我来互相交流。她问了些关于薪水、房子、绿卡的问题,而我得帮他们翻译。他们两个月后就结婚了。还有另一个女人,已经和一个美国人结婚了,但是因为她的英文太差了,回答不了签证面试的那些简单问题,结果拿不到签证。所以她让我把答案都写下来,而她自己就背下来而已。 为什么美国人要娶那些几乎不会说英文的中国女人呢?在我看来这有些可悲。 附:我贴这个帖子是因为不知道为什么,我觉得这些女人让我感到尴尬,她们促进了那种顺从/拜金的亚洲人的刻板印象。
[–][deleted] 15 分/分 2 月 ago Some people have yellow fever. Some people like feelingwanted. Some people couldn't find agirl back home and are making the best of their current situation. Some people just really, reallylike Chinese girls. 一些人喜欢黄种人; 一些人喜欢被依赖; 一些人在家乡找不到女友,只能利用他们现在的形势; 一些人只是真的真的喜欢中国女孩。 [–]H_E_Pennypacker 5 分/分 2 月 ago Some people came here withoutthe purpose of finding a relationship but got into one anyway 一些人来到这儿,本没想过找到一段恋情,但最后还是陷入了一段。 [–]ShawnGupta 4 分/分 2 月 ago Some people don't have a lot ofmoney and Chinese girls are smaller so they only need to use half of a roofie. 一些人没有太多钱,而中国女生体型更小,所以他们只需要使用一半的roofie(译注:氟硝安定,**药物)
[–]Mr_FreNezYQuébec 弧苏省 3 分/分 2 月 ago I get what you mean... butbelieve me, the envy/jealousy doesn't last long. Sure, they are pretty to lookat and have hard bodies, but what is the proportion of the time in one day whenyou are actually having sex? 1%? 2%? The rest of the time, it's just pureawkwardness, being so damn different and all. And that is not to mention thetremendously high failure rate among those hooker-punter marriages, and theoutofthisworldly scam stories you hear all the time. So yeah, not much "Woah,that's a lucky bastard!" from me when I see such a scene... 我知道你的意思……但是请相信我,(你的)嫉妒不会持续长久的。当然,她们看起来很漂亮,有着好身材,但是性在一天中能占到多少时间呢?1%?2%?其他时间就是完全的尴尬,彼此是这么的不同。 更别提这些妓女—船夫式的婚姻有着高的可怕的失败率,而且你总能听到各种极端的诈骗故事。 所以,当我看到这样的场景时,可不会说“哇,这个混蛋真幸运啊!”…… [–]nikatnightShanghairen 4 分/分 2 月 ago While I agree sometimes...notevery situation is like that. edit: and think of the successrates at home....also low as fuck 尽管我部分同意,但是不是每个情景都是这样的。 附:而且想想在我们这儿的(婚姻)成功率吧……也是想狗屎一样低
[–]Mr_FreNezYQuébec 弧苏省 1 分/分 2 月 ago By "not every situation islike that", you talk about interracial marriages where the two parties(BOTH of them) make great efforts to bridge the cultural gap? As in, theycommunicate a lot, learn each other's native languages to fluency, and developa solid understanding of each other's culture? Well, yeah, of course that has ahigh chance of working out. But the situation talked aboutin the OP is just plain ridiculous, and while I can understand why some peopleput themselves through it, I never ever would. 你说“不是每个情景都是这样的”时是在说种族间的婚姻(其中两方都做出了巨大的努力来跨越文化隔阂)吗?在这样的情景中,他们经常交流,互相学习对方的母语知道流利的水平,而且对对方的文化有较深的理解?好吧,是的,当然在这样的情况下有很高的可能成功。 但是帖子说的情况就是明显的荒谬的,尽管我能理解为什么有些人会去这么做,我绝不会。 [–]nikatnightShanghairen 3 分/分 2 月 ago no, smart ass. By "not every situation islike that" I mean not every man is a fat 40 year old man who can't getgirls at home and not every women is like I described either. You don't have to speak thesame language to be able to like someone and care for them. Technology can helpand actions speak volumes. 不,自以为是的家伙。 我说“不是每个情景都是这样的”是在说不是每个男人都是在家找不到女孩的40岁的肥胖老男人,而且也不是每个女人都是像我说的一样。 你并不需要会讲一样的语言才能喜欢某个人和关心他们。科技能帮忙而且行动会说话。