性爱是伴侣间的亲密行为，然而根据一项调查显示，竟有近5成的受访女性与另外一半性爱时，脑海中曾浮现性幻想对象，又以旧情人及同事为“热门主角”。

英国一家性玩具公司“Lovehoney”近期访问了1300名女人，发现有高达46%的女性在与另外一半性爱时，曾幻想其他对象，而“主角”大多为旧情人

唉，我特么早就预料到了。

有道理，好恐怖

太可怕了

什么都能忍，就这忍不了

真男人会因此感到羞耻

英文网站上给龟男的洗脑文、说明很多白皮男还是有这样的烦恼所以需要洗脑~~~~~
10 Ways to Deal With Your Partner’s Sexual Past (Because You Have To)
10个处理你伴侣过去sex经历的方法
There’s no way around it—the person you’re dating probably had sex with someone else before he or she had sex with you. Maybe a lot of people. Maybe in wild, kinky ways that you thought only happened in the most secret clubs in Bangkok. Maybe they lived in Bangkok. In any case, if you want to be involved with this person, it’s your responsibility to get over it. No one’s going to say that it’s easy to deal with your partner’s sexual past, especially if it’s more colorful than your own. If you’re finding it difficult to get past the jealousy, you’re not alone. The Frisky recently published a piece about a boyfriend who made his girlfriend feel ashamed of her sexual history. The Gloss had a post in which a variety of women explored whether or not they could be with a man who had slept with a prostitute. Though not everyone experiences debilitating rage when they think of a partner’s past, it would be safe to say that jealousy is something that most people have to deal with at one point or another. The good news is, you can. We may be hard-wired to rid the world of sexual competitors, but it is an impulse that can be controlled and even used to our advantage in relationships. Here are a few things to keep in mind. ♦◊♦ 1. The fact that they’re telling you about it at all says something STDs aside, your partner’s sexual past is really their business. If they’re telling you about it, it’s probably because they care enough about you to be upfront. Remember that. They’re being honest, which gives you license to be honest about your feelings about it. Just try to be aware of when you’re sharing your feelings and when you’re irrationally blaming your partner for hurting you with their past behavior. 2. Experience = better sex Dating someone who’s had lots of sex could mean they’re better at sex. Consider yourself lucky that someone else got the brunt of their awkward phase. 3. There’s nothing they can do about it now What would you actually have your partner do about their sexual past? Go back in time and erase it? First of all, changing the past could do irreparable damage to the space/time continuum. Second, it’s impossible. If you need time to deal with it, take it. But make sure you’re not punishing someone for that happened before you met and can’t be undone. 4. They didn’t know you when it happened Whoever else they had sex with, however many of them there were, IT HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU. 5. They may have gotten it out of their system Just because someone has a promiscuous past doesn’t necessarily mean you have to worry about their insatiable sexual appetite. They may have been sowing their wild oats. And now they’re all “sown” up. You don’t have to worry so much about them leaving you at 45 to go on a motorcycle tour of the nation’s brothels. Or seducing the pool boy, depending. 6. It’s how they treat you now that’s important, right? Right. If everything else about them works for you, that’s what matters. Of course, if they’re not treating you how you think you deserve to be treated, that might be what you’re really upset about. 7. Their past has made them who they are That sincere confidence? That may have come in part by having their attractiveness confirmed in the past. It may have also come from getting screwed over and healing. Remember that, if you like this person, it’s every experience they’ve ever had that made them into the person you like. 8. Remember, this is your issue While your partner should be as sensitive as he can to your insecurities (we’re all human), he shouldn’t be made to feel guilty. Your jealousy is your own responsibility. Maybe you need to take a break and go have sex with a bunch of people. Maybe you just need to talk to a friend. But do something. Don’t just stew. 9. Jealousy can be your friend Just because you’re jealous doesn’t mean you’re a psycho. Jealousy can be kind of hot. Feeling like someone wants you all to themselves can be a huge turn-on. Go ahead and tell the person you’re dating all about how you feel. Don’t whine, don’t apologize. You want to murder everyone she’s ever had sex with? Own that feeling. Just don’t actually do it. 10. Be the best they ever had The best sex is not necessarily the kinkiest sex. It’s not necessarily with a “perfect 10.” The best sex is with the person who understands you the best. It’s with the person who is the most turned on by you. Pay attention, stay open, and rock that person’s world. You’ll be amazed at how little the past matters when you’re both having the best sex of your lives. -

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10 Signs Your Partner's Still Into an Ex （10个你伴侣仍然醉心前任的迹象）
How to tell if your lover is hung up on a former flame.By Shahreen Abedin
WebMD FeatureReviewed by Louise Chang, MD
Holding on to previous romantic attachments creates feelings of distrust and can stymie an otherwise promising relationship. So are you wondering if your honey's heart still rests in the hands of a past love? There’s no way to know for sure without talking to your partner about your concerns. But how do you know when you need to have that talk? Here are 10 signs that it may be time to bring it up.
1. Talking About the Ex Too Much
We all compare our current romance to ones we’ve had in the past, and an occasional reference to an old steady is no cause for alarm. “But," says marriage and family therapist Joan Sherman, "if it’s happening 24-seven, it’s a problem. It’s going to keep both of you from enjoying the new relationship.”
Sherman says if you're hearing every detail and story about the former relationship, it’s probably a sign that your partner hasn’t moved on.
2. Not Talking About the Former Love At All
Silence about a former lover can indicate lack of closure. Guilty feelings from carrying a secret torch often make a person not want to talk about an ex. If you notice your partner's afraid to bring up the ex or if your partner's tried and it's becomes a sore point, Sherman says, it’s time to ask why.
3. Online Stalking
Whether it’s with Facebook, a dating profile, or Googling the ex's name, relationship expert and author John Gray says, keeping frequent online tabs can be a red flag. Gray says, “If they’re spending too much time online following a past partner, it may make you feel neglected. Are you getting what you need from this person, especially when he or she spends two hours on Facebook after dinner?” If not, Gray says, it’s time to speak up.
4. Too Much Contact With the Ex
Frequent emails, phone calls, or online messaging with a past love can take away from a current relationship. But it’s a matter of context, says Washington Post advice columnist Carolyn Hax.（更多略）

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