如果你有个好的心态，即使是最糟糕的情况也会有所好转。心理素质好的人不相信你应该选择放弃，所以你也不要相信。只要有希望，即使情况对你极为不利也要不断向前进。

"I must be cruel only to be kind; / Thus bad begins, and worse remains behind," says the tormented Hamlet. He has just mistakenly killed Polonius, and it's clear that he doesn't know how bad things are going to get.

饱受折磨的哈姆雷特说：“要想善良，必先残忍，坏事开了头，更糟糕的还在后面。”他刚刚误杀了波洛尼厄斯，而且很明显他根本不知道事情会糟糕到什么程度。（《哈姆雷特》，第3幕第4场）

I never used to be who I really was. I used to pretend. I used to put on a show. I used to put on a mask. I used to try and be who I thought others wanted me to be. I think everyone’s been here at some point in their lives, and I’m sure we can all agree that it’s not much fun. When I started being myself, it was one of the best things that had ever happened to me. I couldn’t have imagined the changes it would make in my life. Looking back on it, some of the below are obvious, and some less so. So, what will happen when you finally start being yourself?

我从来不习惯做真实的自己，并常常将自己伪装起来，装模作样，带着面具生活。让自己成为别人希望的样子。我相信几乎每个人都曾这样过，我们也都知道这样的感觉并不好。当我开始做真实的自己后，发现这竟然是人生中最美妙的事。它给我的生活带来了意想不到的变化。再回首，做自己带来的以下15个惊喜，有些很明显，有些则不太容易体会到。让我们来看一下，究竟是哪些令人惊喜的改变呢？

My decisions are my business. No one else’s. I make them and I have to live with the consequences. I’ve learned the hard way that if you try to make others happy at your own expense, surprise surprise, it doesn’t make you happy.

我的决定是自己的事，与他人无关。无论结果怎样，自己承担。我深知牺牲自我利益去取悦他人的痛苦滋味，这真的一点都不痛快。

At the very least, I know what direction to go in. As the dialogue from Alice in Wonderland goes:
“Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?”
“That depends a good deal on where you want to get to.”
“I don’t much care where –”
“Then it doesn’t matter which way you go.”

至少，我知道自己的目标。正如爱丽丝漫游仙境中的一段对话：
“请你告诉我，我应该走哪条路？”
“那得看你自己想去哪儿。”
“我不太。。。在意去哪儿——”
“那选择哪条路对你来说都无所谓。”

Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are.”I love that quote. And I believe in it. I used to worry a lot and I think this is why.

紧张是你自己假想的，放松才是真实的自己”。我喜欢并深信这句谚语，曾经我也过分忧虑，我想这就是原因。

[cp]你说你喜欢雨，但是你在下雨的时候打伞。 你说你喜欢太阳，但是你在阳光明媚的时候躲在阴凉的地方。你说你喜欢风，但是在刮风的时候你却关上窗户。这就是为什么我会害怕你说你也喜欢我。

愿漂泊的人，能够早日不漂泊